
Proverbs 3:11-12
How many young couples holding a tiny new life in their hands, start out hoping to improve on the parenting that was modelled for them? Others want to emulate the Dad or Mom or even Grandparents they were blessed with. What is the highest expectation a new Mom and Dad might hold of what their parenting skills will achieve?
In hospital with my own firstborn I remember the two young girls sharing my room both wanted to “grow up” with their babies. Both 18, it is probable they still had some growing up to do. But maturity is a relative term…we are forever learning. Adapting to parenthood is a process, not an event. At Christmas time one can’t help but think of what young Mary had ahead of her; parenting a perfect baby when she herself wasn’t mature.
There is one exception of course. God, our Heavenly Father is the perfect parent. He is not in the process of ‘becoming’. He is….all that is perfect, the loving, all-seeing, all-knowing, fair and just, Parent. Although we may try, it is impossible to pull the wool over His eyes; we cannot manipulate God. We can anger Him. People throughout human history have grieved our heavenly Father. How does He respond?
Our Father God disciplines those He loves, for our own good (Hebrews 12:6,10). People have asked why God would allow suffering, but perhaps it is because He knows it is often through suffering that men and women will turn to Him for His help. Why does God not fix the inequities in our world today? He knows we need to be stretched…those who are rich need to help those who are poor. Are we passing the test?
As parents we think we are better people when we rush in to fix the mistakes our children make, whereas the reality is they would become better people if they suffered the consequences of their wrong choices. On the basis of mistaken understanding of the character of God, we judge Him according to the ways of man, rather than the other way around. He is the benchmark of perfect parenting.
What is the product of perfect parenting going to be? Someone who is happy? Someone who is helpful? Someone who has hope? Can health and wealth compare with these assets? Sadly I have seen the most wealthy people who are empty of hope or happiness because they have no vision for helping. The perfect parent reaches out to help others, modelling choices that will impact a child’s well-being forever.
Reflection:
Our Father God reached down to a world that was suffering to offer help and hope, joy and peace, relief from the worst suffering possible. Separation from God determines our eternal destiny, so with kindness, mercy and grace our Father sent Jesus into this world to make relationship with His Father possible by paying the penalty for our sins. Jesus modelled how to live, and how to love. As our prefect Father’s perfect Son, Jesus offers us sonship, in His name. Will we receive God’s offer this Christmas?
“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not resent His rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those He loves, as a father the son he delights in” (Proverbs 3:11-12)








